Water balloons = fun.
Until they break.
I recently came in from filling balloons and watching my kids begin this ageless game of ‘balloon toss’.
Remember when you were a kid and you’d fill ’em up and begin to toss them back and forth to one another. With each toss there was this excited anticipation mixed with fear. You’d toss and watch, as the one you’ve now entrusted the care of the balloon unto began to see it approaching in mid-air. You’d see their eyes widen as it drew near. You’d watch, hoping that they would fulfill their end of the “balloon toss” trust pendulum by catching it. You knew the inherent risk: that they could drop it, the balloon could burst and the joy could end…
But you played anyway, because the delight outweighed the risk.
It reminds me of relationships. We are counting on the one we’re in relationship with (parent-kid; husband-wife; friend-friend) to catch our exchange of trust as we toss it their way. We express some vulnerability and openness to toss some of our heart in their direction and wait with baited breath to see not only if they will catch it, but will they then return serve and trust us? Will they be trustworthy? Will they do their best to preserve me? That’s what we’re asking of any significant relationship.
Trust is a foundation of any and all relationships.
Sometimes that trust gets dropped and it bursts. At that moment, there is a decision to be made. Will I get another balloon (piece of my heart) and toss it again?
I’ve never met a person that hasn’t dropped a balloon in this balloon tossing game.
I’ll admit, I’ve never been a perfect catcher of the trust tossed in my directions from some of those whom I’m in relationship. My hunch is you’ve dropped a few too. Truth be told, there hasn’t been a relationship in history (outside of Jesus) that hasn’t experienced a “trust drop.”
But in order for relationships to be filled with the anticipation, excitement and fun – there must be a toss of trust within them.
So, if you’ve watched a lot of your heart get dropped, I am truly sorry. I wish it weren’t so. But please don’t give up tossing trust in the direction of some you may come to believe in. The toss of trust is still needed. Don’t let fear and hesitation keep you sidelined and out of the game for good.
As you engage in relationships – do your best to be trustworthy in catching. Then return the toss of trust. And you’ll find that it builds fun, anticipation and excitement within. The truth is: we can each walk around holding a water balloon in our hands, but that’s just not fun.
The toss is where the fun enters in.